Life can be “lifing” sometimes. There are those days, weeks, or even months when everything feels heavy, and it seems like nothing is working. Honestly, I had one of those weeks in 2020. I had no job. My finances were in a mess and I also had debts piling up. It was emotionally draining, and mentally, I was tired.

I found myself waking up each day dreading the next. Complaints rolled off my tongue more than gratitude. I hated my situation. I started feeling like my life was stagnant.   

The stagnancy wasn’t just external; it seeped into every part of my life. Without a job, I felt like a failure as I got many rejection emails. I had no money, so I couldn’t take care of basic needs or pay off debts piling up faster than I could keep track. I felt directionless, unable to see a way forward as I was not sure what I was doing wrong that could not land me a good job. The plans I had for my life felt like distant dreams, overshadowed by the harsh realities of my situation.

Stagnancy became a cycle. With no job, there was no income. Without income, I couldn’t take risks or invest in opportunities. And without opportunities, I felt like I was running in place, trying to break free but unable to. Every day looked the same, and the sameness was exhausting.

I remember journaling one day, thinking it would help me process everything. Instead, writing it all down only magnified the weight of my situation. Seeing it in black and white made it real: I wasn’t where I wanted to be, and I had no idea how to get there.

What made it worse was the sense of failure that came with stagnancy. I began to blame myself. Was I not working hard enough? Or maybe I was not that smart in school? Was I not praying enough? Did I make the wrong decisions? These thoughts consumed me, making me feel even more stuck.

But here is the truth I’ve come to realize: stagnancy isn’t always a reflection of laziness or failure. Sometimes, it is a season—a painfully slow one—that forces you to stop, reflect, and reevaluate. In my case, stagnancy was a signal that I couldn’t do it alone.

Around that time, I volunteered for a Christian mental health group called Brother’s Keeper, and that week we had a small get-together. It was not anything elaborate, but it was exactly what I needed.

Being in that space with people who were honest about their struggles, yet hopeful about their future, reminded me of what mattered. My burdens didn’t magically disappear, but I felt lighter. Listening to how God showed up for others gave me perspective.

This is the thing about community—the right one. They will hold you up when you feel like you are about to break. They will strengthen you even when you think you are fine. And sometimes, just their presence will remind you that you are not alone.

I don’t know what you are dealing with right now, but let me tell you this: God is good, and He’s got you. It may not feel like it is in the middle of the chaos, but He hasn’t brought you this far to leave you.

If life has not been pleasant lately, take a deep breath and remind yourself that it won’t last forever. If it still feels like you’re in the middle of it, then it’s not the end yet. God is super faithful; He won’t fail you.

Here are major things  that I have  learned from  navigating tough seasons:

Community is Key- Having people to talk to about your heavy heart is a game changer. It’s not just about being heard; it’s about being reminded that you’re not alone.

Drawing strength from others- Sometimes, someone else’s story is all you need to find hope. Seeing how God has shown up for them can remind you that He’ll do the same for you.

Protect Your Peace – Your mental health matters, create boundaries, let go of unnecessary stress, and prioritize what brings you joy and calm.

Finally, Trust the Process – The most beautiful endings often come from the most challenging seasons. It’s okay if the journey is hard—it’s all part of the process.

This is a reminder that you’ll be fine. Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but eventually. And if it still feels like you’re not fine,

Find strength in the people around you, stay close to God, and guard your heart. I’m rooting for you always, and I sincerely believe that everything will fall into place for you.